Hella Good Livin

Erin and Tonya talk over margaritas about dating in your 50s, how apps feel like “window shopping,” and why meeting organically is hard. They share divorce experiences, carrying the load, and how healing and therapy shape new non-negotiables: effort, support, peace, and not being dysregulated. They discuss red flags (badmouthing exes, bare minimum behavior), updating app profiles, and meeting people through “third places” like gyms, hobbies, and coffee shops. Key takeaway: protect your peace, don’t settle, and build a full life first.

Erin and Tonya talk about curating mindset in midlife, especially after Tonya stops an antidepressant and feels overwhelmed by situational stress, perimenopause, money scarcity thinking, and self-doubt. They distinguish optimism from toxic positivity, focus on control and identity shifts like empty nesting, and discuss tools: regulate the nervous system, limit negative inputs (including self-talk and social media), build self-trust by keeping promises, take micro risks, pause and reframe, and surround yourself with growth-minded people. Tonya commits to 21+ days of daily journaling with gratitudes and self-appreciation.